UPDATED AUG 2023 My gold membership expires this month so I will become a Standard Member and cannot read your emails. If you want to contact me plz IM me or find another way to kick it with me. The 1st thing you need to know about me is that I am a very happily married man, here with my husbands permission. We have been consensually non-monogamous for around 2 years. The 2nd thing you should know about me is that I have absolutely 0 interest in helping you cheat on your spouse or SO. So please do not contact me if that's your situation. I do not host. If you're still reading and interested, then lets get into the good stuff. I love kissing with lots of full body contact and rubbing our hands all over each other while we kiss. I love to give and receive oral - I'm just as happy eating a nice pussy as I am sucking a good dick. I love anal too; I am versatile so I can top or bottom as the situation calls for it. I haven't ever tried BDSM but I've had a few mild fantasies about it. I may be open to meeting with someone to explore, if that's of particular interest to you. I am DDF (STI free), clean and you must be too. I am on PREP to help prevent HIV. As part of this, I receive regular STI testing every 3 months. I do not look like a model but I do try to keep in good shape and eat well to stay healthy, and I have been told that I'm pretty cute. We will meet in person before we ever meet to play. I want to make sure there is mutual attraction and chemistry after we see each other in person and I have no interest in being cat fished. My husband and I lead busy lives so I will always need advanced notice before we meet up. Any messages to "cum over now" will be ignored and you will be blocked. I'm only interested in finding friends or playmates who can respect my time and my boundaries the same way I will respect theirs. If I haven't scared you off yet lets kick it at the same.

My Ideal Person Someone else living the polyamorous/consensually non-monogamous lifestyle.

We just moved here from Denver earlier this year where there is a thriving swinger/non-monogamous community. That's clearly not the case around here since 9/10 people that I talk to on here are clearly cheating on their SOs. I'm not here to judge you and your life, but a complicated situation adds a whole lot more stress to what I'm trying to make a fun, easy, and enjoyable experience.

So as long as you're willing to be on the up and up about what we're doing, and are DDF (ideally having received STI testing within the last 3mo) then I really don't have a lot of other requirements for an "ideal person". Be real, be genuine, and be open to chatting about what you like and don't like sexually.

Besides that, I'm interested in someone who will respect the relationship that I have with my husband and understand that he will always come first.

I care more about connection & chemistry than I do looks, so if the connection is there I really won't care what you look like.

After saying all that, I do still occasionally get interested in a quick hookup. For men, I love bears/dadbods aged 30-60. For women, I love BBW to athletic fit and everything in between, ages 40-60. For both, I like real people both inside and out.

What types of sexual activities turn you on?:
Giving Oral Sex, Receiving Oral Sex, Anal Sex, Rimming, Light Bondage, Spanking, Threesomes, Mutual Masturbation, Voyeurism, Blindfolds, Massage

What factors are most important to you when looking for a sexual partner?:
Sexual experience, Physical attraction, Same/similar fetishes, Sexual appetite, Agreeable to a commitment free sexual relationship, A little of each

Have you ever had cybersex?:
I've tried it, but it's just not the same.

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